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I wish I wasn’t so shitty at arguing about asexuality.
Here’s my take:You are not the jackass whisperer. It’s not your job to make them understand and accept you. They will never accept us, no matter how many electrons are wasted trying to do so. I’m all for mocking and ridicule, but anyone who’s trying to actually convince them that they’re wrong is never going to get anywhere.
“Their number is negligible, and they are stupid.”
Remember that above all. There’s only about four or five of them. FOUR OR FIVE. They’re very loud and very angry, but there aren’t that many of them. Small, insignificant things can make an awful lot of noise, but that doesn’t mean anyone should waste time on them. Just a few clicks of the block button and they go away. I don’t even see their moaning anymore, I just see the side effects. “What, there’s trouble in the ace tags today? Where?”
You don’t win marriage equality by trying to have a rational discussion with Fred Phelps. You don’t end segregation by catering to the Klan. You give them the finger and you move on. I don’t care about those four or five hate-filled people. They’re irrelevant. Their lives consist of attacking people they’ve never met from behind the safety of a computer screen, so why does anyone think they matter?
What matters are all the other people out there. All the people who’ve never heard of asexuality. All the people who are unsure where they fit. All the people who think they’re broken because they’re not interested in sex. And that’s where I see my role. I want to reach them. I want to help them understand. There’s a lot more of those people than just four or five, and you have the power to change their lives.
That doesn’t mean you have to go out and start a asexuality channel on Youtube or write a book to spread the Word of Ace or wear a black-gray-white-purple sweater that says “I’m asexual!” on it every day. It means that you should just be you. You’re asexual, so be asexual. Don’t hide from it. Don’t run away from it. Don’t let them take that from you.
(In other words, don’t give a damn about what a pack of assholes on the Internet think about it, because they’re wrong.)
Bang bang bang, yes this. This.
so relevant to pretty much any topic on tumblr
also lol “the jackass whisperer” brb using that every day
“Being “anti-PC” is not sticking it to the Man, it’s sticking it to all the people whom the Man routinely stomps on.” — Baby-stepping away from racism: A guide for white people (via fangirlmarena)
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Documentary (A)sexual coming June 5 -
So apparently the (A)sexual movie is out on iTunes, Amazon, YouTube, all kinds of places starting June 5. (Looks like that’s the U.S. release date only.)
Get ready to watch it, I’m pretty awesome in it. They play silly music when I come on most of the time. You get to see all my toys.
YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS
The thing for me about people trying to divide asexual people up according to romantic orientation is that to me, it feels like they’re trying to split our community up. We never agreed to that, and furthermore, there are so damn few asexuals in the world that we can’t really afford to splinter apart. Our similarities are more important to us than our differences; there are things that asexual people tend to understand about each other that no one else will ever fully understand about us. For me (not necessarily for anyone else, but for me), it’s like the asexual community is one big happy basket full of kittens, all different colors and breeds, but people keep coming along and deciding they want to take home all the kittens except the calico ones, or all the gray ones and not the rest. And that’s upsetting to me, because I don’t want to lose any of my asexual kitten-siblings and I don’t want to be taken away from them. So even if I were one of the ones other people wanted in their groups (which I don’t think I am and I’m not sure I would be even if I had my romantic orientation all sorted out), I would still not be okay with this happening. You take the whole damn basket or you leave us the hell alone, got it?
This doesn’t exactly plague me incessantly or cause me too much distress (I don’t tend to get all that worked up over abstract ideas), but it is a thought I’ve had bouncing around in my head for a while and I wanted to share. Other people don’t get to draw distinctions in the asexual community that we don’t draw among ourselves. That is not okay. Understood?
I love you, and your metaphor is purrrfect. *get it?!* No, we’re a big, happy basket of kittens and no one gets to take just one asexy kitten home. You take all of us, no matter what fucking prefix we have on some other part of our identity, just like you don’t take only the white asexuals, or just the male asexuals … you take - everyone.
EVERYONE.
*finds and reblogs this again because it is the best*
Fuck this is old. It has my old username on! …. oh deer. c:
KITTIES.
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I guess it doesn’t get better for all of us, huh?
^^ The above question is aimed at asexuals.
I’m not asexual. (If you’ve ever read anything I’ve ever written about sex, you know this to be true.)
But what the hell, people.
“Inflicting yourself?” What the hell?! Lots of words coming to mind. Damaging. Abusive. Horrid. Vile hatred.
As if sexual desire is the most important thing a person brings to a relationship?
What about compassion? Trustworthiness? Loyalty? A listening ear? A sense of humor that doesn’t rest on degrading others to make yourself and your friends feel better? Shared interests and hobbies? You know, the sort of things that make people good and friendly and wonderful.
How dare anyone insinuate that anyone is “inflicting” themselves on someone else by their presence and involvement in someone else’s life? As if asexuals are a disease. Honestly, it reminds me of sermons I’ve heard about how people suffering depression bring other people down with them. I’m sorry - actually, no I’m not sorry. It’s not my fault that I’m depressed - it’s not a choice I’ve made, and if you’re not okay with hanging out with me then that’s YOUR problem, not mine.
Sigh.
Thank you for what you wrote. Also that bit about depression too. <3
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omg I want to print out like 1,000 of these pamphlets and litter the streets with them -
“If by a “Liberal” they mean someone who looks ahead and not behind, someone who welcomes new ideas without rigid reactions, someone who cares about the welfare of the people-their health, their housing, their schools, their jobs, their civil rights and their civil liberties-someone who believes we can break through the stalemate and suspicions that grip us in our policies abroad, if that is what they mean by a “Liberal”, then I’m proud to say I’m a “Liberal.” — John Fitzgerald Kennedy was born 95 years ago today. (via think-progress)
good news if you follow this blog and i know you and you have a vag theres a high likelihood that i want or have wanted to make out with you
Several people whom I follow recently reblogged a post by a trans person that trans people don’t belong in the LGBT movement because being trans is about identity, not sexuality.
No. Fucking take a seat and educate your damn fool self about your own damn people’s damn history Also, pay attention to how many times the nice, polite little Asian girl just cussed. That’s how damn badly you are fucking up here.
Trans* people are part of the LGBT movement because trans people created the LGBT movement. Because trans* people were the ones who stood up and fought in a day and age where “respectable” heteronormative gays and lesbians actively opposed any sort of overt equal rights activism as “troublemaking”. Because the respectables were so fucking cowardly that they not only refused to stand up for themselves, but argued that anyone who dared stand up for themselves was ruining things for everyone.
The “respectable” gays and lesbians were all Johnny-come-lately to the movement. They stole it out from under the people who actually had the guts to face down riot cops, threw trans people overboard by saying trans rights were “too much” to ask for, and subverted an authentic street level grassroots fight for equality into a circle jerk of insider political games and one-percenter cocktail parties for themselves.
Trans people who agree that the LGBT movement is “supposed” to be about freedom of sexuality and that freedom of identity is a separate fight which needs its own movement are buying into that betrayal. Fuck that shit.
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“You threw out booze?! WHY WOULD YOU DO THAT?!?!?! It never goes bad!” — my dad on the phone with his sister
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